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I hate when people say this to me! It’s judgmental and makes absolutely no sense. What is “too much?” There’s a hidden message in their statement. Listen for the message and address that.
The Hidden Message When Someone Says You Work Too Much
How To Deal With the Hidden Message
|1. The person needs something from you, and you are not delivering. This could be time together, conversation, intimacy or interest in their life.||1. Take a look at the situation and be honest with yourself. Then, have a conversation and discuss what you both need and how those needs can be met without you diminishing who you are as an entrepreneur and business owner.|
|2. The person is jealous.||2. There are haters and then there are people who just need to know what they work at is important, too. Forget the haters, you’ll never change them. For the others, find out what they are working at and what goals they’ve reached. Make sure to celebrate their accomplishments and to not make your conversations all about your new business, your work, your complaints and your accomplishments.|
|3. The person has no clue what it takes to do what you do.||3. You can try to explain, but don’t get your hopes up because some people won’t agree with your choices of how you work, when you work and what you do for your work. They may judge and think you could work smarter or get an easier job. If they have suggestions for working smarter, listen with an open mind. If you believe you are doing the best you can to work smart and take care of yourself, there’s no need to defend yourself or your lifestyle. You can offer an explanation once. If they don’t get it, there’s no need to revisit the subject. You’ll have to agree to disagree.|
|4. The person has different ideas than you when it comes to what should be done with our time on Earth.||4. Just chalk it up to different perspectives in life. Some people need more leisure time than others. Tell them it’s not helpful when they throw this complaint at you, and that you understand they believe you work too much.|
|5. You are neglecting a commitment you made to that person.||5. Apologize and make good on your commitment. Or, renegotiate your commitment to something on which you can make good.|
|6. You are neglecting your health.||6. Stop neglecting your health and ask that person to help you set some goals with regards to sleep, taking breaks, eating healthy and physical movement.|
|7. You complain about working.||7. Stop complaining.|